Shmily

I have long been an admirer from afar of Michelle Wards Green Pepper Press Street Team. I don’t always get over to her blog to check out the challenges, but when I do I end up staying half of forever reading back posts. She has so many creative ways to stretch your artistic muscles that I always leave feeling renewed and wanting to try something new. But, until now, I have not ever ‘officially’ joined in a monthly challenge. While drinking my coffee this morning, I visited her blog to learn of her sisters passing. My heart goes out to Michelle and her family for their considerable loss. Michelle’s response to her grief is this Pay It Forward challenge. She is one amazing gal! Now I have done several PIF’s and RAK’s this past year, on a small scale. It feels so good to see a package go off, knowing it will make someone smile, and hearing back that it made a difference to that person is the best possible feeling! Today though, I would like to share a few RAK’s I have received from none other than my best friend, whom I happen to be married to. This is not to be all sappy and sweet. It is to share how the smallest of things can turn someones day around. We often overlook the people that are closest to us, taking them for granted, and if we just took that extra minute to do something unexpected for them, how much it would uplift them.

Long ago we adopted a little word, ‘shmily’. I don’t even remember where we got it from, it means ‘see how much I love you?’ This little word shows up unexpectedly, and is an instant lift to the spirit! It is a little RAL (random act of love) that will brighten the worst of days. How could you not smile, if you found this written into the dirty window of your car, or written on the shower wall after DH has left for an early morning flight? Now, I’m not going to say that my DH is perfect, or that we don’t have our ‘moments’, we are human, but the things that stand out in my mind are the little things that show me how much he loves me. When I accidentally pulled the bumper off our brand new GTO, and had to call him while he was on a trip to tell him, he knew how upset I was and sent me flowers with a note saying “That’s alright, I’m ok, it ain’t nothin’ but another day. Only God knows where I’d be, if you ever stopped loving me.” These are words from a song by Montgomery Gentry. I’d rather have flowers on a day like that than an anniversary any day!

So I guess the thought I would like to leave with you is, do something nice for the person closest to you. It doesn’t have to be big, just a RAL that will make his heart smile:-)

11 responses

  1. Hi Pam,thanks for telling your story and thanks for reminding us that everyday life with our beloveds is very important….Hedwig

  2. “Shmily” is a perfect RAL and I learned a whole new language too !;-)!Seriously, it is so true that we sometimes forget to give that extra liitle something to the ones who really are the best at loving us. Thanks for the inspiration! Off yo RAL my hubby today !Kim

  3. So so true. We let our guards down with those who we feel the most comfortable and often overlook how important it is to nurture our own gardens.I just recently returned from my vacation and YOU were in my thoughts often as I was so inspired by your journal pages. Thanks for being you.

  4. pam – thanks for sharing your story and for the simple reminder that it’s within us to perform RAL daily to those closest to us. i love the last sentiment – that you’d rather have flowers on the day following the *bumper incident* than on any given anniversary. thanks for coming to play on the team.

  5. Pam~I think “shmily” might just be the custest story I have heard…about a word. Very good advice you have given us all. I also am sad to hear of the loss of Michelle’s sister. What a wonderful person she is to remember her sister in this way. Gosh we are all so different, aren’t we. I can’t imagine losing somone that close to me, my biggest fear.Your post makes one think…

  6. A wonderful post in response to great sadness….you are absolutely right that we need to share RAL’s with those we love the most.Here comes my guy now 🙂

  7. Gorgeous post Pam. And my heart goes out to Michelle. I lost my only sister 8 years ago. It changes our world when we lose a sibling.

  8. So sad to hear of Michelle’s loss, I can not imagine nor do I want to ever know what she is going through. A great tribute to that love is to do the random act of kindness or love as you have mentioned….it’s the small things that change our world one little pebble at a time.Your DH sounds like a truly wonderful person 🙂

All comments are read and greatly appreciated!

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